The Rev. Dr. H. Daehler Hayes passed away peacefully on Friday, September 27 at the Hope Hospice Center in Providence, RI following a brief illness. He was the loving husband of The Reverend Joy Utter; father of Mark Daehler Hayes (Janey Dyke) and Elaine Brandel Hayes Pearl (Richard); stepfather of Matthew Edwards and Eric Edwards; father-in-law of Andrea Flavin, Lori Edwards, and Marney Weaver; grandfather of six grandchildren: Tanner Mark Hayes (Becca), Natalie Hayes Pearl, Ethan Edwards (Erin), Sydney Pettie (Michael), Chase Edwards and Cole Edwards; brother-in-law of Wendell Ellenwood; uncle of Dean Ellenwood, Sandra Bain, Kay Hetzer (Bill), Gary Ellenwood (Tess), and many great-nieces and nephews; and former spouse of Charlotte Brandel Hayes. He was preceded in death by his parents and sister Mary Janet Ellenwood.
He was born on November 16, 1936 to Harold Leonidas and Florence Alma (Daehler) Hayes and raised in Portsmouth, Ohio. He graduated from Portsmouth High School in 1954, from Harvard College in 1958, and from Harvard Divinity School in 1961. He then served in pastoral ministry at Zion United Church of Christ in Cincinnati (Norwood), Ohio and at Old First Reformed Church UCC in historic Old City Philadelphia, PA before moving to Rhode Island to become the Conference Minister of the Rhode Island Conference United Church of Christ and served in that position for 20 years. He then received the honor of Conference Minister Emeritus. After retirement as Conference Minister, he taught “Ethics” and “Judaism, Christianity and Islam” courses in the Philosophy Department at the University of Rhode Island as an Adjunct Professor for 17 years.
A Memorial Service of Celebration for his life was held at 11 a.m. on October 19 for relatives and friends at the Seekonk Congregational Church, United Church of Christ, Seekonk, MA.
An Interfaith Service of Remembrance and Thanksgiving for the Conference Churches and Clergy took place on October 26 at 11 a.m. at Central Congregational Church UCC, 296 Angell Street, Providence, RI.
Donations can be made towards the expenses related to the interment of his ashes and towards the relocation and restoration of the columbarium at: Old First Reformed Church, 151 N. 4th Street, Philadelphia, PA 19106. (215) 922-4566
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